Baby Ear Piercing.
It continues to be a topic of high debate amongst moms.
I fully understand that placing your child in pain deliberately is absolutely the last thing any mother willingly wants to do. But, for those moms who choose to pierce their daughter’s ears, they may run into a few snags along the road.
My position still stands that I feel that yes, babies do feel real pain when they get their ears pierced. But, it is a pain that is quickly forgotten and one they will not remember.
I sure don’t remember getting my ears pierced.
I know that it is one more thing to do in the long list of daily tasks that a mom has but, keeping their ears clean and turning the earrings is not something that can’t be incorporated into a routine for 2-6 weeks. (I’ve previously posted about a few tips that I used for both of my girls when I pierced their ears as infants, you can read more about that, here.)
Well, I don’t regret piercing their ears because I feel that it is a form of femininity and it is something that eventually mostly every girl wants to do.
Both my daughters are very different.
Gabriella is loud, funny and so very gentle and kind-hearted. While Michaela is my little spitfire, she is confident and knows what she wants and is very particular. Of course, every toddler her age is but, when it comes to pierced ears, it’s not the best quality.
Since she’s so particular, she doesn’t seem to like the weight of earrings on her lobe and thus removes her earrings with precision far beyond her one year, kind of like Houdini could escape his underwater tank.
She’s that good.
Do Your Research!
So, if you are thinking about piercing your infant’s ears (always make sure to consult your physician and research before you do anything out of your comfort zone) or if you’ve already done so and are running into the same snags, I have a few solutions that may just help. I know some may argue or judge as to why even keep them in in the first place but, alas, it is my choice and if you’re here, you’re obviously looking for some perspective. Well, I’ve come to these solutions in order to keep the piercings and avoid Mimi any pain or discomfort.
Here are a few problems you may run into:
“I’ve cleaned and maintained my daughter’s ears for the recommended time but, once I removed the piercing studs and replaced them with normal gold or hypoallergenic earrings with regular backs and plastic covers, she seems to just pull them off.”
Like anything, if it is done over and over repeatedly, it gets worn and tattered. In this case, if you continue to put in the earrings and you know that she will rip them right out, she is damaging her lobe and leaving chance for infections. Not to mention, she is causing a lot of pain to those little ears needlessly–which is something that we all want to avoid.
Use ear antiseptic and a cotton ball or pad and clean the piercing and lobe. Leave it alone until redness has subsided. Don’t worry about the piercing closing, if you’ve treated it and it’s been open for months it won’t close. I’d re-approach her when she is asleep and I’d recommend the screw back earrings.
These earrings have a stud in the front and the endings of the earring have grooves that screw in the backing. The backing is a plastic semi-circle with a metallic insert that allows the earring to screw into.
Insert new earrings and secure tightly. For most girls, this usually is the final solution. The plastic backings also keep the back of their ears safe and free of rubbing or poking from the pointy backs of normal earrings.
“I’ve tried screw-back earrings and my daughter still takes them out!”
I’d recommend that you leave them out for at least a week and you can try to use segment hoops. I’ve personally have not used them, simply because Mimi has a very small lobe. The segment earrings are pretty neat, you pull out a segment of the hoop, insert it into the piercing and then pop it back in.
Once it is in, the opening is not visible. So, your child will not be able to pull or yank it out or use those little fingers to get them lose. You literally have to look at the earring closely to find the beginning or end. The only problem is that the segments are usually thicker than most hoops, so it may require a little gauging and that is something I steered clear from.
“I like the idea of segment earrings but I do not want to gauge my daughter’s ears.”
Go with the Flow!
This is my little snag in the road of infant ear piercing, my first daughter was a breeze and never ever touched her earrings. Mimi, on the other hand, can’t keep anything on! She’s a free spirit! She’d run around naked if she could! LOL.
My solution was to purchase a pair of sterling silver hoops. A pair of really small ones where the end goes right into the earring. The only way to remove them is to apply pressure. The hoops that just clipped did not work. She’s kept these in with no problem. Plus, I love how she looks in hoops anyways.
Just a disclosure…
This was my solution and how my daughter reacted to them. I know if she showed any signs of tugging, I would have removed them immediately. As always, use caution and your own judgment. Seek the help of professional for medical advice.
So, you may run into little snags along the way. If you do want to keep your daughter’s ears pierced you can try the above. I am by no means an expert, these are just tips I learned through my own experience. I’m just a mama. One who doesn’t want to bring her little girl to get her ears pierced at the age of 8.
Or have her end up with one pierced ear.
If all else fails and your toddler or infant can’t keep the piercings in her ears, just keep them out. Every week and a half you can put earrings in to keep the hole open. Make sure to always have your hands washed and use an antiseptic to clean the ears when you do so.
How did your little girls react to her earrings? Did she even notice them there or did she take them out too?
Let me know, til then! Cheers m’deres!
Nancy Polanco is a freelance journalist, lifestyle content creator, and editor of Whispered Inspirations. She is a proud Mom to Gabby and Michaela and partner and best friend to Darasak. Having worked as part of a health care team for almost a decade, Nancy is happy to be back to her passion. She is a contributor to the Huffington Post, TODAY’s Parents, and an Oprah Magazine Brand Ambassador.