Live Life to the Fullest!
So, upon conversation the other day, a question came up that really made me think. The question was that in your life as it is right now, do you have any regrets? The answer from each person was different. One said that they’d only change a few things, another said if they had the chance they’d do it all over again and another said they really didn’t know.
What was my answer?
Well, simply that I don’t regret anything in my life. Some situations would have been in my best interest to avoid but the way I see it, my life would not be where it is at right now had I not taken the path I did. The relationships that I decided to embark on, no matter how frail or tormented brought some good out of them. Some friendships I took, although advised strongly against by family, opened doors to find the happiness I have now. My life is literally like a puzzle that hadn’t all the parts been placed as they were could not have been brought to completion.
For example, if I hadn’t been in a certain place at a certain time… I would have NEVER met the love of my life. If I hadn’t left certain situations I would have never been granted the opportunity for success or advancement. I also have situations and people who have taught me great things in life and continue doing so. Some people stay for a little while, others stay forever.
It’s just the way the dice fall.
There are no regrets in letting people into my life just as there isn’t in letting them out of it. But, when I look at it all as it has all come to pass. I stand by the cliché, the one that says that everything happens for a reason. I wholeheartedly believe it. There’s a plan for each and every one of us. And it’s easy for most people to be bitter when things don’t turn out.
And I admit, I am.
But, I get over it. I learn to see it as a lesson taught. And MOST importantly, I forgive and I admit again, I don’t forget. And I know I’m full of clichés but, “those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” Hence, when I am confronted with people of my past that I let out of my life, I simply ignore them. But, don’t misunderstand me, I will tell it how it is if I feel I have to. But, they don’t phase me, as much as in their small little worlds they hope they do. I guess they don’t realize hating takes up too much energy.
Once I shared my answer with everybody, they said that it did make sense. They brought up instances in their lives that if so and so didn’t do this or that they wouldn’t have what they have or be where they are today. “It’s just a mind state really,” I said. We had a few laughs and carried onto other conversations.
The way I see it, I’m a better person for walking away and for letting go and for appreciating the right now, the present. For looking forward to the will be, my future…
And leaving the past where it belongs.
Nancy Polanco is a freelance journalist, lifestyle content creator, and editor of Whispered Inspirations. She is a proud Mom to Gabby and Michaela, and wife to Darasak. They all share her insatiable wanderlust, enjoyment of good food, and sharing their adventures with the world. Nancy is a contributor to the Huffington Post, TODAY’s Parents, and an Oprah Magazine Brand Ambassador.