So as a mom it’s extremely difficult to think of the future of my children.
Especially being a young mom to two daughters.
In fact, it’s kinda frightening.
Watching Teen Mom is scary. I don’t think those girls have any idea of what they’re in store for because unfortunately, they are making adolescent mistakes and learning the hard way and they’re doing this with a dependent. A little baby who has no fault for coming into this world.
It’s frustrating because I wish I could sit down with some of them and just shake them and tell them what they’re doing wrong and what’ s going to happen because of it. It’s hard not to empathize with some of them, Maci I find is one of the girls I hope will beat the statistics and I find her story to be the most interesting. Farrah. Well, I think she is a disgrace. Anyhow, you’d have to watch the show and have had to watch 16 & Pregnant to really know their stories.
So, teens having babies?
Well, teen pregnancy is a huge problem that is only rising as the years go by. Frankly, not only is difficult caring for a child while they are children themselves but there is the monetary issue behind it. Most of these girls rarely finish their high school education and most of them never enter post-secondary education.
According to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy report, only 40% of teen moms that have children at age 17 finish high school and only 23% of teen moms of the same age go on to complete their GED and the gap gets even larger when it comes to post-secondary education. About 16% of teen moms go on and complete 2 years of post-secondary, 5% aged 18 or younger and 21% of moms aged 20-21.
This is scary to me, only 2% of teen moms ever finish college by the age of 30. Compared to the 9% that gave birth at the age of 20-21.
Now, these are US statistics, how about us Canadians? According to Statistics Canada, believe me, we aren’t very far behind and almost the same as the US. We have more than the UK and guess what? Ontario has the highest abortion rate in Canada sitting at 60%.
Those are quite the numbers…
The NCPTUP states that the halt in teen moms education not only affects them presently but goes on to affect them the rest of their lives because they will earn less money throughout its entirety.
Teen parents who have had a baby at 17 or younger can expect to earn $28, 000 dollars less in the 15 subsequent years after they have a baby compared to if they had held off until age 20 or 21.
Numbers are numbers, there are always exceptions.
Now if that’s not scary enough it keeps going, daughters of teen parents are more likely to become teen mothers themselves and sons are more likely to be incarcerated. Though theses are just statistics, I don’t believe that all their offspring are doomed, it just takes a lot to break this cycle.
I thought I was young having a baby at 20, it was difficult and most definitely a life altering experience but, I knew my goals and followed through with them. Since then, I’ve managed to gain two diplomas/certifications and am working in one of those fields. Of course, it didn’t come easy and it took a lot of perseverance, hard work, and little rest.
It’s just a shame when I watch that show. I may not have been a teen mom but I sure was young but, I was more than lucky to have the support of a loving family to guide me.
Something most of those girls lack.
So, what do you think of the show?
Do you think it condones teen pregnancy or do you think it scares them to NOT want to have babies?
I think it shows the struggles teen moms face, the relationships with their baby’s father crumble. Still, I think it may lead teens astray simply by influence.
I’m just nervous of what’s to come, but I have to have faith in the values I instill in my children and the way we raise them that will hopefully allow them to make wise decisions in the future.
What do you think? I’d love to hear from you!
Til then, cheers m’deres!
Nancy Polanco is a freelance journalist, lifestyle content creator, and editor of Whispered Inspirations. She is a proud Mom to Gabby and Michaela, and wife to Darasak. They all share her insatiable wanderlust, enjoyment of good food, and sharing their adventures with the world. Nancy is a contributor to the Huffington Post, TODAY’s Parents, and an Oprah Magazine Brand Ambassador.
Ugh. i have two teenage daughters and one on the cusp of teenagedom. we've watched these shows together, hoping it would open the door to discussions about choices and the real meaning of "forever". while i teeter between pity and disgust with these young ladies, it's the parents i most often find myself wanting to choke with my bare hands. i think the show walks a thin line between education and glorification as i do think it glamourizes the idea of getting knocked up so you can be on tv. mostly, my daughters comments range from "NO WAY am i ever getting pregnant" to "that car seat is ugly!"… so i really don't think the show in and of itself has much to offer to dissuade the ADD thoughts of a teenage girl, however i am thankful for the opportunity it presents a family to talk about it.
I have to agree. It's hard not to pity them and hard to not be disgusted by it.
However, it sure would be a great way to bring up the topic for discussion. Good luck, since you will be going through it before me. LOL.
In the end, we can't make our children's decisions for them, we can only hope we've done all we could to guide them towards what's best.
Thanks for coming by!
I got home yesterday to find my 14 yr old with her new friend..a 15yr old pregnant smoker. I am not going to judge her, as I don't know a thing about her, but after she left I wanted to throttle my daughter. She allowed her 12yr old sis to hang outside w/ them as this girl smoked. My eldest does not have any desire (right now) to have sex or smoke, but she apparently does not have the sense to keep it away from her sibling. Am I overreacting? I don't think it's fair to forbid her to foster a friendship, but I also don't want her to view these behaviors as ok. And we have watched the 16&Pregant shows…she thinks the girls are stupid for allowing themselves to gt in that situation.
Thanks for coming by! Well, I'm no expert Angel, but one of the most profound lessons that I learned from my mom and as a young mom myself, is that "Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are."
You can take that saying with many meanings. One is the stereotypical view that people will have of an individual if they are seen with, in this case, a 15 year-old pregnant girl. They will assume the other girl is just the same. The other is that habits, especially bad ones are contagious.
I'm going to make it a point to get to know EXACTLY who my daughter's friends are & although you may feel that you are forbidding a friendship, what good can your daughter derive from being friends with a girl in her particular circumstance and then to submit your youngest daughter to that example.
Whether or not I judge the girl or not, I wouldn't want her near my daughters. The only thing I can suggest is to talk to her and ask her why she is friends with her and what they can possibly have in common and what they will have in common AFTER the baby is born. I'd talk to her in a calm and inviting manner. I wouldn't absolutely FORBID her without explaining a thing because that will only make her do the exact opposite.
As far as thinking the girls are stupid on 16 & Pregnant, I do hope she's not saying what you want to hear. I don't want to scare you because we were all that young once. I think bad associations just lead to bad situations and habits. I would do my best to shield them from her while educating her as to why those behaviours are NOT okay.
Hope it helps, I'm here if you ever need to talk. Good luck Angel, thanks for stopping by!